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We talk a lot about love languages in our relationships with others, but it’s also important for your relationship with yourself! Here are 100 love language self-care ideas for the 5 love languages.
Love languages are an important thing to consider when discussing important relationships in our lives.
Whether it’s with friends, family, or a romantic partner, understanding your lover’s love language can really help your relationship thrive.
What so many of us forget is that our love languages are also a key part of our relationship with ourselves.
If you are not familiar with the 5 love languages, let me give you a little background to make it more understandable.
What are love languages?
The 5 Love Languages comes from the ideas and writings of Gary Chapman. Chapman’s book, 5 languages of loveintroduces, explains and emphasizes the importance of love languages.
In essence, love languages provide insight into how a particular person receives love.
Gary Chapman, a marriage counselor, discovered that different people respond differently to acts of love. The way one person expresses love may not be perceived as love by their partner.
You can see how this can lead to disagreements, arguments, distance and feelings of disconnection in a relationship.
It’s important to understand your partner’s love language (as well as your own!) so you can know the ways to express your love to them.
But less talked about is how it relates to self-love.
If we want others to show us love in a certain way, why don’t we show love in the same way to ourselves?
This is where self-care in the language of love really comes into play. Understanding your love language and demonstrating self-care accordingly is key.
5 languages of love
5 languages of love Words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch.
These 5 love languages are the basic categories of how we give and receive love. Let’s break them down a bit more so that we have a very clear understanding of what Chapman means by each of the 5 love languages that he lays out for us.
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Words of affirmation
People from Words of affirmation love language (that’s me!) tend to recognize the power of language. This love language is developed through compliments, verbal support, vocal reassurances, and kind messages. VeryWellMind describes this love language as “expressing affection through spoken words, praise, or gratitude.”
Those with a Words of affirmation love the language indeed appreciate actions that show support or appreciation. This love language finds great meaning in the seemingly small everyday tasks your partner helps you with (ie unloading the dishwasher, making dinner, cleaning the house, etc.). Small acts of kindness mean the world here.
The Receiving gifts the language of love is exactly what it sounds like! This love language finds meaning and commitment in gift giving. Often it’s not about the gift itself, but more about the time, effort and thought put into the gift. People with this love language tend to keep gifts and may even create relationship boxes with all the important little gifts shared.
Quality time is another fairly self-explanatory one. This love language feels most loved through attention and quality moments spent together. Whether it’s a date or an evening on the couch, spending time with your loved one is important to this love language.
The Physical touch the language of love is another language that needs explanation. This love language is developed through physical connection and touch. Hugging, holding hands, sexual intimacy, cuddling, and massage are all examples of how this love language can feel and express love.
How to find your language of self-love
Your self-love language matches your shared love language. It stands to reason that the way you feel, give, and receive love from others will be the same when applied to yourself.
To practice love language self-care, it is important to first know your love language.
To do this, you can simply rate the things/actions that make you feel most loved, valued, noticed and appreciated.
For example, as a Words of affirmation girl i know the comments, compliments and phrases are supportive “I’m proud of you” make me feel so incredibly loved.
If you want a more guided approach to figuring out your love language, take this test.
It’s quick and easy, and the results break down your connection to all 5 love languages and organize them.
When you learn your love language, we can explore different love language self-care options myself to feel loved.
100 self-care ideas in the language of love
Here are some ways to show you care about yourself through your own self-love language. This list provides 20 ideas for each love language: Words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch.
Self care affirmation words
- Keep a log of confirmations
- Write yourself a thank you note
- Use confirmation card
- Write kind words on sticky notes in your home
- Try a self-love affirmation meditation
- To vocalize affirmations of self-confidence in the mirror
- Set reminders on your phone with nice compliments
- Magazine all something to love about yourself
- Create a compliment jar
- The beginning of a list of thanks
- Have a self-love mantra
- Surround yourself with people who express their love
- Journal about your strengths
- Practice positive self-talk
- Compliment yourself (try this letter of compliments to myself!)
- Work to quiet the voice of the inner critic
- Follow through self love journal prompts
- Speak up when you are proud of yourself
- List your achievements
- Please talk to and about myself
- Clean your bedroom
- Change the sheets
- Choose your favorite takeaway
- Take a self-service shower
- Cross something off your to-do list
- Plan your week in advance
- Fill the car with gas
- Create a cozy place for yourself (blankets, candles, etc.)
- Clean the bathroom
- Treat yourself to an at-home spa day
- Organize your space
- The schedule is full self care day
- Prepare a healthy meal
- Schedule an appointment/inspection
- Make nails
- Practice skin care
- Take on a home project
- Exercise/move your body
- The beginning of a side hustle
- Remodel your living space
Receiving gifts Self-service
- Go shopping
- Place an online shopping order
- Pamper yourself a wasted point
- Buy something you’ve wanted for a long time
- Create a self-service kit sweets
- Do the project yourself
- Book yourself a luxurious date
- Buy yourself some flowers
- Take your favorite food from the restaurant
- Invest in your hobby/career
- Sign up for an online class
- Take yourself on a date
- Invest in your education (online courses blog that’s how I started this blog!)
- Buy your favorite coffee
- Take a custom trip
- Buy a new self-care item (skincare, haircare, bath bomb, etc.)
- Get a new plant for your home
- Do your hair
- Treat your nails
- Have a spa day
Quality self-care time
- Take a custom trip
- Have dinner with you
- Arrange a home date with yourself
- Go to a local cafe
- Go for a solo walk
- Take a ride
- Read a book
- Watch the new TV show for yourself
- Explore a new city on your own
- Take a self-service bath
- Do yoga
- A day without a phone
- The beginning of a daily reflection journal
- Start therapy
- Try breathing exercises
- Get out into nature
- Take a day off from social media
- Watch the sunset/sunrise
Self-care through physical touch
- Take a self-service bath
- Try a new body scrub
- Use a lotion with a pleasant smell
- Practice skin care
- Stretch your body
- Go for a walk
- Go to training classes
- Clean the skin dry
- Make yourself happy
- Hug yourself
- Massage your scalp in the shower
- Foam roll your muscles
- Get a massage
- Wear comfortable clothing
- Use essential oils on your skin
- Ice roll your face
- Schedule a pedicure
- Book a spa day
How will you use your love language for self-care?
Once you learn more about your self-love language and how to practice self-care in your love language, how will you change your self-care routine?
Have you ever practiced your love language self-care? Will you be adding new self-care activities? Let me know in the comments below!