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Dear Deepak, I have a friend who has been in unhealthy relationship after unhealthy relationship, with little break in between, for possibly his entire “adult” life. We are both 27. She had issues with substance abuse, promiscuity, infidelity and was violent in her relationships. She cannot be alone with herself, and she will do anything to prevent that from happening. After years of support, I feel like I’ve reached my limit. I feel exhausted, depressed and angry. I did my best to be there for her and not judge her and encouraged her to see a therapist. But I feel like I can’t even talk to her anymore because her behavior has disappointed me. Is this one of those situations where I need to distance myself from her because it hurts me too much to be her friend? I told her how I felt, but I still had so much anger. What should I do with this anger?
The first thing to do is to separate your anger from your friend’s story and understand what they think of you. For example, it seems to me that the source of your frustration stems from the inability of your love, support, and energy to change your friend’s self-destructive, abusive, and compulsive behaviors. It’s a big issue to come to terms with, and it’s definitely something that many parents have to deal with at some point. So if you want to deal with your anger, you need to take an honest look at your beliefs about love, control, and respect for another’s path, no matter how obviously wrong and unnecessarily painful it may seem to you. It requires developing humility in the face of the limitations of our understanding and a deepening of love that can embrace even those whom we cannot yet help or be close to.