Can you act confident if you have no confidence?
Is there a difference between doing something confidently and being confident?
Can you really “fake it till you make it”?
What is the difference?
Which has confidence defined as your level of confidence in your ability to do something. You believe that you can achieve what is ahead of you and you have confidence in your future success.
To do something for sure means you do it confidently. You express I have little doubt in your ability.
They are the sound same thing, are you sure there is a difference?
Can you do anything confidently without confidence? They claim that it is possible.
One is an action (doing with confidence) and the other is a feeling (with confidence).
If you can complete the action, the feeling will come with time and experience.
“I gave my presentation with confidence, but I lacked the confidence to get my message across to the audience”
This means that we can create a sense of confidence despite the fact that we don’t feel it, hence the phrase “fake it till you make it”.
How is one without the other?
To do something confidently and confidently means to express almost no doubts. Body language plays a big role here.
How we stand, how we hold ourselves, how we move. If you can display body language that indicates confidence, these are non-verbal cues that the people you interact with will pick up on.
These are all key indicators of whether someone appears confident. Different cultures may have some differences in body language, make sure your body language matches the language of your audience.
Pay attention to your voice. Your tone, pace, and inflection can also convey confidence.
Take a deep breath and pause before speaking.
Slow down a bit and take your time with offers.
Vary your tone and intensity to engage the listener.
Words should be clear, not mumbled, direct the voice towards the listener, not to the floor.
We can practice, rehearse and demonstrate all of the above, even if we are not confident in our abilities…more!
Practice makes permanent
The more we consciously practice different behaviors, the more the behaviors become unconscious. This behavior then becomes a habit, and over time we no longer need to think about it.
It’s as easy as 1, 2, 3…
The more we are in situations where we have to do something confidently, the more we achieve.
The more we achieve, the more we prove our ability to do something.
The more we validate our abilities, the more confidence we have in what we can achieve.
That confidence is confidence.
Make the self-fulfilling prophecy positive
While we can adapt our body language and verbal cues to do something with confidence, we must also adapt our internal conversation.
Our mind is a powerful tool.
“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t. you are right”
~ Henry Ford
This is such a powerful quote. Our inner conversation is often the key to success. Check the conversation you have with yourself. Is your head full of self-limiting beliefs? Are you a blocker of your own success?
“I’m rubbish at interviews”
A common statement. Rarely true.
Most people who say this are employed, which means they have had at least one successful interview!
Actually they mean no I like it an interview. However, if they prepare and practice, they can perform well in an interview.
“I’m rubbish at interviews”
“I do well in interviews when I practice and prepare because it gives me confidence”
You can rotate it
Identify your self-limiting beliefs. Write them down on paper and spend some time rewriting them into positive beliefs and positive affirmations.
Ask yourself, does the original belief have any confirmation, or is it something you told yourself out of habit?
Be careful when using them. Be careful with the correction and rephrase the sentence to make it positive.
Start with your head.
Talk to yourself confidently.
Change the language to confident.
Be careful when expressing doubts.
Challenge the validity of these thoughts.
Finish your body. How will you be perceived? Does your body language show any limiting beliefs you’ve had in your head, or do you carry yourself in a way that gives the impression that you’re confident?
No one said it would be easy
None of this happens in your comfort zone. You will need to take the first step to make it happen. The more you practice, the more comfortable you become, and at some point it becomes your new comfort zone.
Once you can do things with confidence, your confidence in all areas will grow and so will you!
“Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny.”
― Mahatma Gandhi
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